स्वयं की तलाश

जीवन एक युद्घ,प्रतिदिन-प्रतिपल मैं लड़ रहा हूँ।
पथ में आती हार को कर के दरकिनार
बस जीतने का प्रयास कर रहा हूँ
जीत की आशा में,हार की निराशा में,
कठिण प्रयास में,दुःख में,उल्लास में,
जब खुद को ढूंढ़ना चाहता हूँ मैं,
स्वयं को स्वयं से दूर ही पाता हूँ मैं।

जीवन की इस भाग दौड़ में,
एक दूजे से आगे बढ़ने की होड़ में,
ऐसा लगता है कहीं कुछ छूट गया है,
मेरा मन जैसे मुझसे रूठ गया है।
इस आपाधापी से जब भी कुछ क्षण
अपने लिये चुराता हूँ मैं,
स्वयं को स्वयं से दूर ही पाता हूँ मैं।

खुद को जानने की कोशिश में,
मैंने बस इतना जाना है,
जीवन का एक गूढ़ रहस्य,
शायद मैंने पहचाना है।
हार-जीत निरर्थक,यहाँ
जीत का प्रयास ही जीत का अहसास है।
ज़िंदगी है ऐसा सफ़र जिसमें,रास्ते बड़े मंज़िलों से
स्वयं को पाना महत्वपूर्ण नहीं,
महत्वपूर्ण स्वयं की तलाश है ।।

Coffee

(Inspiration - Mary Schmidt/Baz Luhrmann )

Ladies and gentleman
If I could offer one tip for the future, coffee would it be.The long term benefits and scientific proof you don’t worry about, just drink . Whereas  the rest of my message for you has no basis more reliable than my own non-existent experience…I will dispense this advice now

Don't make  resolutions and promises, chances are you will never achieve and fulfill  those. It only gonna make you unhappy and worried. The whole world is a stage, why not ad libbed the whole part. Plan for the worst day but don't spoil the excitement of uncertainty.

Jog. (Or walk briskly, or cycle, or do yoga.)

Don't overburden yourself with problems at work . The presentation and excel spreadsheet are not the solutions to your life problems. The troubles in your life will always involve people and people are unpredictable and some are crazy sons of bitches.

Spend a little time every day doing nothing.


Don't expect organization to be as committed to you as you are to them. They don't work in that way. If you find one that is as committed,never leave.Invest in a good suit,pair of shoes and get a shave.Thanks to society's shallowness,the return will be considerable.

Record all the feedback you ever get in your career. Especially the inaccurate, pointless, biased and vague bits that drove you nuts. This will help you when you eventually give feedback to somebody yourself.

Keep a copy of all your old resumes. When you are struck by bouts of existential crisis, flip through them in chronological order. Do the same with resignation letters.

Jump.

Don't judge people by what they speak,Don’t leave nasty comments in other people’s walls and blogs. Similarly don’t expect people to like every thing you say on social websites. Sometimes you are liked many times, sometimes nobody will even read your status update…the race is long and in the end, the status update is only a way of talking to yourself. Don't judge yourself by that.

Swim.

Be kind to your computer. You will miss it when it crashes and lose all your pictures when you have to format your hard-disk. Get plenty of hard disk space for your computer.

Maybe you drink,maybe you don't. May be you booze may be you won't .May be you will engage in one unethical,unlawful activity, Whatever you do, don't laugh at a person doing something different than you. You are lying to you parents so is everybody else.

Dance but keep it classy

Understand that people come and go, but there are a precious few you must always annoy. Work hard to find out that girl’s phone number, because the more you delay, the more the possibility of her boyfriend dropping her off  right before your eyes.

Listen

Let people give you advice. Develop the art of looking interested even if you are not.Pay attention to advice of people who have stake in your happiness and not a stake in your success.

Not a lot of people are “meant” to do something. They just say that to sell bad books.You will find various amounts of meaning and satisfaction in various things. Choose your compromises wisely.

Be nice to people for the heck of it.

Don’t expect the TV to show good programs all the time. Put it on mute when advertisements are on.

Be careful whose blog you read, but, appreciate those who blog. Blogging is a form of yoga, where you do abnormal things just to keep you normal.

Hope is great,but we need caffeine.

 Forget all these,trust me on coffee.

Can we End It

We all read about the shameful act of woman abuse in the state of Assam, we all condemned it, we all hate it and our heart goes to the girl as we stand bow headed, furious but helpless. Are we really so helpless after all? Did we brought this fate upon ourself? Can nothing be done to prevent this? To make sure no other girl has to suffer. I guess We can. I falls down to us and we need to accept the responsibility not because tomorrow it could be our sister, not because the society needs it but because it is right.

You do one thing. First you grow up. Because, if you grow up means, automatically your son will grow up. And when your son is growing up,  give him a lot of free advice. Don’t think that he won’t take it. Give it anyway, he will eventually take it.

Tell your son to go out with the girls. Tell him to give them hugs and high-fives and ask them to go out on day trips and have fun and ask him to use that condom you just gave him. Tell him that the Health and Glow shop anyway has lots of varieties of them near the cash counter itself and that he need not be embarrassed to go buy them if he has to. No one will notice.

Tell him that he can talk about sex in your presence. And that you will not feel embarrassed about it.

Tell your son that it is ok to watch pornography. Don’t ask him to watch it when you are around and all, that will be indecent, but still tell him that there is nothing wrong in watching two adults in action.

Tell your son to read erotic fiction and have some fun. In fact, if possible, you only give a copy of the Kamasutra to him. He won’t understand any of it anyway, but still give it to him. Or try Harold Robbins.

Ask him to log on to Chatrooms and have sex chat with a random girl on the other end. It could be a guy pretending to be a girl, but still that and all doesn’t matter. Ask him to have it nevertheless.

Ask him to do sexting with this girlfriend, but tell him to do it discreetly. Tell him it is ok to have phone sex with her and that even if you overhear something from his room, tell him that you will pretend you have not heard anything. Promise him you won’t embarrass him.

Tell him to fall in love with a woman . Tell him to go head-over-heels about her. Tell him to admire her beauty. Actually, tell him to admire the beauty of all women. Tell him that they are single most source of joy on the planet and that without them the world is nothing. 

Tell him to relax and enjoy.

But before you do ANY of the above,

 Tell him that it is a shame to touch a woman without her permission. Tell him that it is a failure on your part and on the way you have brought him up. Tell him that it is a failure to his manhood.

Tell him that real life pornography requires her permission. Tell him that if a woman agrees, no amount of erotica can match a woman’s passion. But ask him to wait for the woman to agree first.

Tell him that a woman is a human being. Just like him. Not a piece of object. Tell him that while it is ok to admire her beauty, touching her without her permission is worse than stealing food from rabies-ridden street dog. 

Tell him that even broken hearts can be mended but he cannot break a woman’s dignity at any cost.

Tell him that raping is a Sin for which Man will have to pay a heavy price. A very heavy price.

Its a friday morning,
Friday, the day when people suddenly become happy for some unknown reason. Do they actually have a plan for the next two days? Well for me, I have to say yes to that. I will be working on a business journal which will contain a detailed report on the strategies to counter any future economic financial crisis, and also I am planning a visit the island I am contemplating to buy.Besides this,I also have to take care of the meetings with BOG's.Life has been like this since the time I have been appointed as the CEO, the adrenaline flow never seemed to subside and i enjoy every bit of it. As they say, life always seems fair when you have more or less everything, which includes a beach house, a yacth, a sports car and some of the world most sophisticated gadgets.

As I reached near my office elevator, I realized that I have an important meeting in ten minutes with one of the top notch clients. The elevator door opened as i rushed in, I saw a old man standing there. He was wearing a black trouser and a blue jacket which had a badge on it . "Elevator Man", I told myself.He had a quite a bit of wrinkles on his face and had lost almost all his hair which would otherwise have appeared white. His eyes were black and he was wearing large blue framed glasses to cover them up.As I took a sip of my coffee, I suddenly started having a feeling of the old man being familiar. Though I haven't seen him earlier for sure,he reminded me of someone. Someone who has always inspired me, someone who has unanimously considered as the original with me being the xerox copy, someone who has made me what I am today, my dad.From the time I remember, I always looked upon him for almost all aspect of my life. I however don't know the kind of relationship we shared.We would sit together and discuss about women and politics whenever we got a chance. My dad is a retired army colonel and ego comes as a gift with this job. For sometime recently family issues have vandalized what we had between us.The last we conversed, he asked me to grow up and cut off the phone. Now we don't talk, (atleast not the way we used to.) neither we give a damn, and we have somehow accepted this to be the way of life.I miss him and I know he does too but then.....

As the elevator was approaching my office at the topmost 30th floor, the old man said in a soft voice,"Son, your shoelaces". I looked at him, then at the shoes and then again at him. I wanted to tie them,but frankly i don't tie shoelaces, not because its absurd but because I didn't know how to do so. I had to pretend liked I always do, so I signaled my briefcase in one hand and coffee in another accompanied with want-to-but-can't face. He smiled and said,"let me help you" and within a fraction of second he was tying them. Now, normally I would have hesitated and probably step back a bit,but there was a sadist and innocent smile on my face as i was mesmerized with a revisit to one of the best moments of my childhood. My dad always used to tie my shoelaces when he was around, and this is the very obvious  reason why I never learnt to tie them. I got very nostalgic and somehow wanted to see the expression on the old man's face, but he was totally focused on his work. After he was done, he stood up and repositioned his blazer. I looked at him and said "Thank You".He didn't say anything. Then I looked at the display and it read "00". "Zero, that is very weird considering the lift has been moving up for a quite some time ". I asked myself. This time I looked at him, he smiled and said in a very calm voice."Take him with you to the island tomorrow, he will love it so will you".

My eyes opened. It was friday morning and I was still on my bed. Without any second thoughts, I jumped off  my bed and made a call "Morning,how are you?Hey, just wanted to ask, will you accompany me for a yacht ride tomorrow?I need your advice on an investment." Once done with this, I made one more call."Please deliver your best single malt by today evening in my office, Thank you"